Dear Dan,


I appreciate your e-mail and the questions you pose [see article above]. Thanks for putting this issue out and asking us men to respond. 


I’ve decided to use the COVID-19 situation as an opportunity. It is clear that my feelings are closer to the surface than they are in “normal” times. I also have more unscheduled time available as I’m quarantined at home. I’ve decided to have lots and lots of mostly phone sessions (some are visual) and keep my focus on the earliest distresses and work consistently on them. Deciding and staying committed to doing this seem to be key. It’s been “hard,” challenging work, but I feel like I’m making progress. My mind is both coming up with [accessing] new memories and also making more links between the various old distresses. Paying attention to the thoughts that come into my head as I’m clienting seems key in unraveling where and how the hurts “settled into” my mind. Most days, I’m getting between one and two hours of discharge, which is much more than my normal discharge routine.